Guidance Counselors teaching inappropriate objectives…

I am in need of wisdom.  On Monday, Nov. 3rd, at 3pm, I will be meeting with my children’s guidance counselors.  My “babies” are in Kindergarten and 3rd grade – if that gives you any insight into my problem.

I remember, when I entered high school, I, too, had a guidance counselor.  She counseled on things such as which college do I want to attend, should I take the ACT or the SAT, classes I should add or drop, and so forth.  So, imagine my wonderment when I learned that my Kindergartner and 3rd grader has a guidance counselor that meets with them twice a month every month.  My first thought was, “what, exactly, is she guiding them on?” 

They’re too young for her to start discussing college choices or between the ACT or SAT.  So, what exactly is she counseling my children on?  I asked this question not of myself only, but of other parents as well.  Most of whom didn’t even know our kids were meeting with guidance counselors; while other parents knew, but had no idea on what was being taught.  But, they all assumed it was on stuff such as “bullying” and the likes.

Well, I got ahold of their “guidance objectives”.  Needless to say, it ain’t pretty.  There are many, MANY, stomach curling topics listed as objectives.  For instance:  LESSON 7:  To Identify appropriate social behaviors, LESSON 13:  To distinguish between lies and truth, LESSON 14:  To accept and respect individual and academic differences, LESSON 15:  To recognize and respect differences in various family configurations.  These are just the lessons for my Kindergartner.

What is a parent to do?  This cannot and will not, in my household, at least, go unchallenged.  But, how does one go about doing so with the “wisdom of a serpent, but with the gentleness of a dove?”  And, with the insight of the culture we now live in.  Those we ideologically oppose are not rational people.  Logic, Truth, and Reason does not move them against their view of things, against how they see the world…their worldview.  They are radical about promoting and propelling forward their view of the world.  They are determined to arrest, destroy, and violate whomsoever they must…how else, in good conscious, can they teach a 5 year old about various sexualities.  How can they be so justified within themselves to usurp the role of the parent?  To go beyond their edict of teaching “Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic” and expand to now parenting our children?  How?

What’s a parent to do?  Please advise. Although, I don’t see any evidence of it as of yet, I do believe, I must believe, I’m not the only parent who need such guidance from a community of informed and concerned Christians.

Kathy Barnette

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  • Joe Edwards
    October 31, 2014, 12:05 pm

    Government control of public education is now almost complete. PTA’s, if they exist, are sanitized and irrelevant to the broader agenda of controlling our children. Essentially, if parents in 21st century America send their children to public school they will almost universally consign them to the group-think of a godless, morally bankrupt system that wishes to indoctrinate them into the neo-Marxist ideology. There are always exceptions but they are becoming increasingly rare as the older teachers retire and are replaced with young teachers that have never known the truths to which us ‘gray-hairs’ grew up with.

    The Socratic method is recommended. Ask questions that lead them to the absurdity of their position. Let them answer from their own lips!

    And yes, Christian or home schooling is highly recommended but even there, choose wisely.

  • Monica Zah
    October 31, 2014, 11:42 am

    Thank you for taking a stand! Your awareness will bring more awareness to those that are in need of it… May God shed His light, and continue to give you wisdom and discernment. We are all wired and gifted differently, for such a time as this, just like “Esther”… God is bigger and He will prevail! However, that does not mean it will be an easy road or that tough decisions won’t need to take place. I am learning more of letting your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no…there is too much ~unethical in-betweens~ taking place! Praying for your journey ahead and the opportunities we all can benefit from, by tapping into each other’s gifts.

  • Lana Steinecker
    October 31, 2014, 10:22 am

    Kathy, It’s time to start thinking Christian School or Home Schooling.

  • BobfromLongIsland
    October 31, 2014, 10:20 am

    I would forcefully, but respectfully inform the school that you want details about all topics and then inform them which you are opting your child out of, even if all of them. You are the parent, not the school and these are topics that you will address. It is not part of some curriculum. You should tell them you do not authorize any sort of “counselling” of your children. You have rights. More than the school does.

    • Kathy Barnette@BobfromLongIsland
      October 31, 2014, 10:54 am

      I will do just that. One of my objectives is to have them show me how they intend to teach about identifying and respecting different family configurations. I will ask to see the materials they will use to enforce the learning. Thank you.

      • BobfromLongIsland@Kathy Barnette
        October 31, 2014, 12:12 pm

        You’re welcome. This is a direct subversion of our parenting. Some, whose worldview is one way will not object, but those of us who follow Jesus, most certainly should be alert and protective of our children. Everyone knows that when you win the minds of the children, you win.

  • Dave Cook
    October 31, 2014, 10:16 am

    This is why in part we homeschooled our children. While I realize that is not an option for everyone, it does address the problem at least in part. My children were well grounded scripturally, intellectually, and physically for life. They were directed to the correct path and guided toward light not darkness. Perfect…no, but they have done well overall. Between them they have earned three graduate degrees with a fourth in progress. For those who must use traditional school…pay attention as Kathy as done. Do not allow anyone to take over your role as a parent. God will be asking you what you did to guide your children not them. Second, and maybe more important…pray for them and with them daily. Kids can go through public school, private school or home school and succeed…or not. That depends a great deal on how much you pay attention and participate in their lives and education.

    • Kathy Barnette@Dave Cook
      October 31, 2014, 10:51 am

      Dr. Cook, I agree completely. I think it’s my own feelings of trepidation that hinders me from homeschooling. But you are correct. If I want the majority control in directing my children homeschooling must be an option I place back on the table.


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