Jesus is NOT all that you need…

O.K., now, breathe. I know, it’s a shocker of a statement. 

Increasingly so, I hear Christians saying all the time, “Jesus is all that I need” or its variation, “It’s just me and Jesus.”  Most are saying it out of their own pain, out of a sense of hopelessness, because of the rejection they have had and are experiencing right now.  It may even sound “super spiritual.”  But, it’s not.  It’s unbiblical.

God did not create us to be lone ranger Christians.  He created us to commune with Him and others.  He created us to need, not just Him, but our fellow man.  He created us to have a need to matter to someone, to feel love from another human, to have an intimate relationship with another person, to feel like we have some worth, some value to somebody.  It’s only human.

Think for a minute.  When it was just God and Adam in the garden, what did God say about man’s state of being?  “The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'”  So, God created a monkey to keep man company.  No?  He started, right then and there, creating what we know today as the Scriptures for man to read.  No!  He created Woman.  He created one of Adam’s own kind.  Why?  Because God never intended us to walk this life alone.  But wait, Adam was not alone.  God was there with him.  Yet, God said man was alone.  Again, citing the Biblical fact, that we were created to need more than just God. 

Now, for a season, you may find yourself so overwhelmed by the grace and love of God that it feels like it’s just the two of you and no one else is around.  But, kind of like the euphoria that often surrounds newlyweds, eventually, you have to get back to this thing called life.  It’s not that the newlyweds suddenly stop loving one another and start neglecting each other.  They don’t start acting like the other person does not exist.  Instead, their love for one another teaches them how to love PEOPLE unconditionally, it gives them a greater capacity to show grace to PEOPLE, how to share the burdens of other PEOPLE.  Likewise, the love of God.  

Yet, I see so many people walking around like the Hunchback of Notre Dame – backpacking all of their own losses, their own broken-heartedness, dashed hopes, and fears around from place to place, from one relationship to another.  Physically, all alone.  Reciting to themselves and others, “It’s just me and Jesus.”  I see it all around, but it has, perhaps, hurt me the most to see fellow Christians act like they don’t need nobody (double negative for effect).  We don’t want to share.  We come to church, sit down, get feed the Word, and then immediately bolt out of the building before anyone can say “hi, how are you?”  I can see the panic stricken fear in their eyes that someone is going to figure them out.  Then, we will all know that they don’t have it all together.  That they need…they need to feel loved, they need to feel understood, they need to feel like they belong…they need someone to show that they care.

There is unimaginable pain all around us.  While most of us went through the celebratory motions of giving thanks around a big turkey, we were broken.  Our world feels like it’s about to break.  People are hurting like I’ve never seen before.  But, you would probably never know it because most have huge smiles plastered on their faces.  Along with the tag line “Jesus is all that I need.” Well, maybe for a season.  But, He did not create us to be in our own bubble for a sustained period of time.  He created us to connect, to fellowship, to make GENIUNE friendships, to connect with others.  To do anything other, is, dare I say it, unbiblical.

Please do two things:

1.  By the grace of God, I know so many wonderful people all across this nation and in some parts of the world.  If you can identify with what I’ve said here and are looking to connect with others, please contact me at  The holiday season is one of the most trying times for people.  Please contact me.  My ministry is filled with some of the most loving and sincerely kind people you will ever meet.  We have some booger bears too, but I will steer you clear of them.

2.  If, while reading this message, someone crossed your mind whom you know or feel is on the outside looking in.  Go out to them.  Let go of the selfishness of your time and your family and your long to-do list.  Show kindness.  Reach out.  Be intentional.

God bless…

Remember, common sense is not out of style people.  Let us be determined to wear it daily.

Kathy Barnette

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  • Jacqueline L. Homer Jackson
    February 26, 2015, 12:04 pm

    I’m so happy to hear you say , “We all need each other” we really should stop saying “All I need is GOD” because he gave us all something unique so we can commune together on many levels through art, through song. Did you know when we sing a song a church we are really communicating to one another.

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  • Delali
    December 3, 2014, 2:24 am

    “Again, citing the Biblical fact, that we were created to need more than just God. ”

    I believe it is very true that we were created to need each other. With only one person in the world, God in his infinite wisdom saw it incomplete, and made it complete.

    But the fact that we were created to need MORE THAN JUST God is quite strange. I mean let’s look at this scenario.

    Adam was created and told to eat every fruit in the garden than that of the tree of life.

    Genesis 2:15-17 ESV

    The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.”

    The woman that God said was fit for man was first deceived by the serpent. God gave his command but man ignored it because of his partner. By that man was separated from God’s presence.

    We always need one another. Without one another we are incomplete. But we must know that we need God more than just one another. Why? Because God is the one who gives us the commandments, the one who created us. We are men, and sinners, don’t we think that if we need each other more than our creator we will rather be sinning more, like Adam and his wife. If Adam had kept God’s will by putting Him first he wouldn’t have sinned.

    So it is good to have each other and bad to be be alone, but it is always perfect to need God more than just us. I think. 🙂

    By the way I like this article. It made me learn alot. Until today I haven’t really thought about the relevance of needing each other, but you Kathy, have made it clear. It’s just that in my opinion I see it fit to need God more than just ourselves. 😀

    • Kathy Barnette@Delali
      December 3, 2014, 5:01 am

      Hi Michael,

      Thank you so much for responding. I absolutely agree with your assessment. God is our everything. We cannot breathe without Him. He sustains us. He is the Alpha and the Omega…meaning, He is my beginning and my end. He is my best of all friends. He has been closer to me than my own mother. His plans are perfect. His ways are without error. The topic of this article, “Jesus is not all that you need”, is shocking…I know. It was meant to be such. Because it’s so contrary to what we know to be true. Yet, it is true. I don’t need people more than I need God. However, God created me in such a way to need people. We need each other. There has been many moments in my walk with Christ that I have sensed His presence so strongly that I felt I could reach out and touch Him. I’ve felt His embrace. These times, I absolutely cherish. Yet, we both know that God is spirit. We do not see him physically, we do not touch him physically. But, I can see you. I can touch you. I can have a “tangible” relationship and fellowship with you. This is not something you and I created. It is what God created and His plans are perfect and His ways are without error. He knew that on this side of heaven we would need each other. We would need each other to come along side and carry some of my load. To encourage me, to sharpen me, to correct me, to save me even out of a terrible situation. Now, we don’t do these things by our own power, mind you. We do it by the grace and love of God. Not by our might, but by His Spirit do we go out into the world bearing one another up. It takes a lot in this society to not be a self focused person…always thinking about yourself. “Lord bless me, Lord keep me, Lord give me, Lord feed me…” There’s nothing more Christ-like than to turn from my own needs and hurts to love on someone else. That’s the point of the article. I’m glad it added to you. It’s strange I know. But, so very true. It’s a part of God’s plans….He created us to need Him, to trust Him, to serve Him, to surrender to Him…and how do we do that more and more, by being in our own little God-like bubble. No! How can we say we love God, but hate our brothers and sisters that we see each day. God bless. Please continue to share your thoughts. I truly appreciate it and know that it helps others as well. God bless…

      • Delali@Kathy Barnette
        December 3, 2014, 8:23 am

        Thanks Kathy. Your comment helped me to understand your point of view very well. And I very well understand the fact that God created us to need each other. I have thought of this well enough to realise that without each other, and apart from God, there will be no love, no correction, and even no affection. It is well fitting then to have one another.

        By reading your comment again and again… I mean I love it. It has made me realise something, that needing, and in turn having one another sharpens our love. We all can say we love God, but without loving each other, that becomes false.

        1 John 4:12 ESV

        No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.

        ” Now, we don’t do these things by our own power, mind you. We do it by the grace and love of God. Not by our might, but by His Spirit do we go out into the world bearing one another up”

        That statement helped me to understand everything you are talking about. It is true, we need one another. I can’t imagine how life would have been without anyone with me. God loves us, and by loving one another, we show that we value the essence of His creation.

        Thank you again…

  • marcia hornok
    December 1, 2014, 12:02 pm

    Terrific and timely exhortation, Kathy. We Christians tend to forget that God has placed each of us in the Body and gifted as for His pleasure so we will serve the Body, not merely be served by attending, listening, rushing out. When people participate and minister to others, it cures alone-ness and gives fulfilling joy.

    • Kathy Barnette@marcia hornok
      December 3, 2014, 5:03 am

      So true Marcia. We are gifted to serve the Body….so true. God bless…

  • G. Neal
    December 1, 2014, 9:46 am

    Great message and a wonderful reminder of God’s sincere compassion toward us. Thank you!

    • Kathy Barnette@G. Neal
      December 1, 2014, 9:56 am

      Yes, God is so very compassionate towards us. Sometimes we have to stop diving so deep and come up for air in order to enjoy the simple Truths of God sometimes. What is worse than feeling we are all alone? I can’t think of much ease. God has created us to be a community. Not lone rangers. He created us to love one another, NOT to hate on each other and collude/gang up against one another. His plans are simple. So simple, that they sometimes confound the so-called wise. We miss you dearly, good friend. God bless and Merry Christmas.

  • Joe Edwards
    December 1, 2014, 9:28 am

    Good morning, Kathy. This is an outstanding article and you are spot on! Thank you for bringing such a crystal clear message of admonition to compassion by using a little ‘shock treatment’ of sorts. Very, very timely. Our love to you, Carl and the children. Always your servants, Joe and Beth Edwards

    • Kathy Barnette@Joe Edwards
      December 1, 2014, 9:53 am

      Hi Joe. I have had wonderful teachers in my life demonstrating to me such compassion and unity. So, thank you, as well. As of late, within a week, I have had more than 3 friends say “Jesus is all that I need.” I understand the heart behind what they are saying. But, I also see the application of what they are saying…an application of loneliness and a life that is less than what God has for them. The fact of the matter, they are not alone. Nor, does God want them to be alone. It’s not His perfect plan for any of us. Miss you and Beth. We love you too.


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