O.K., now, breathe. I know, it’s a shocker of a statement.
Increasingly so, I hear Christians saying all the time, “Jesus is all that I need” or its variation, “It’s just me and Jesus.” Most are saying it out of their own pain, out of a sense of hopelessness, because of the rejection they have had and are experiencing right now. It may even sound “super spiritual.” But, it’s not. It’s unbiblical.
God did not create us to be lone ranger Christians. He created us to commune with Him and others. He created us to need, not just Him, but our fellow man. He created us to have a need to matter to someone, to feel love from another human, to have an intimate relationship with another person, to feel like we have some worth, some value to somebody. It’s only human.
Think for a minute. When it was just God and Adam in the garden, what did God say about man’s state of being? “The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'” So, God created a monkey to keep man company. No? He started, right then and there, creating what we know today as the Scriptures for man to read. No! He created Woman. He created one of Adam’s own kind. Why? Because God never intended us to walk this life alone. But wait, Adam was not alone. God was there with him. Yet, God said man was alone. Again, citing the Biblical fact, that we were created to need more than just God.
Now, for a season, you may find yourself so overwhelmed by the grace and love of God that it feels like it’s just the two of you and no one else is around. But, kind of like the euphoria that often surrounds newlyweds, eventually, you have to get back to this thing called life. It’s not that the newlyweds suddenly stop loving one another and start neglecting each other. They don’t start acting like the other person does not exist. Instead, their love for one another teaches them how to love PEOPLE unconditionally, it gives them a greater capacity to show grace to PEOPLE, how to share the burdens of other PEOPLE. Likewise, the love of God.
Yet, I see so many people walking around like the Hunchback of Notre Dame – backpacking all of their own losses, their own broken-heartedness, dashed hopes, and fears around from place to place, from one relationship to another. Physically, all alone. Reciting to themselves and others, “It’s just me and Jesus.” I see it all around, but it has, perhaps, hurt me the most to see fellow Christians act like they don’t need nobody (double negative for effect). We don’t want to share. We come to church, sit down, get feed the Word, and then immediately bolt out of the building before anyone can say “hi, how are you?” I can see the panic stricken fear in their eyes that someone is going to figure them out. Then, we will all know that they don’t have it all together. That they need…they need to feel loved, they need to feel understood, they need to feel like they belong…they need someone to show that they care.
There is unimaginable pain all around us. While most of us went through the celebratory motions of giving thanks around a big turkey, we were broken. Our world feels like it’s about to break. People are hurting like I’ve never seen before. But, you would probably never know it because most have huge smiles plastered on their faces. Along with the tag line “Jesus is all that I need.” Well, maybe for a season. But, He did not create us to be in our own bubble for a sustained period of time. He created us to connect, to fellowship, to make GENIUNE friendships, to connect with others. To do anything other, is, dare I say it, unbiblical.
Please do two things:
1. By the grace of God, I know so many wonderful people all across this nation and in some parts of the world. If you can identify with what I’ve said here and are looking to connect with others, please contact me at KathyBarnette@TruthExchange.net. The holiday season is one of the most trying times for people. Please contact me. My ministry is filled with some of the most loving and sincerely kind people you will ever meet. We have some booger bears too, but I will steer you clear of them.
2. If, while reading this message, someone crossed your mind whom you know or feel is on the outside looking in. Go out to them. Let go of the selfishness of your time and your family and your long to-do list. Show kindness. Reach out. Be intentional.
Remember, common sense is not out of style people. Let us be determined to wear it daily.